Mark Demaine

You're not broken. You're finishing what someone else couldn't — a practical guide

The recognition that lands differently from almost anything else in this work: what you are carrying may not have originated in your own…

You're not weak. You're full — and there's a difference

There is a kind of heaviness that has no obvious source. You wake into it, carry it through ordinary days, and when someone asks how you are,…

The tightness in your chest that doesn't belong to you — and how to give it back

There is a particular quality to inherited emotional material that distinguishes it from what we have personally lived through: it doesn't…

Why your goals keep stalling — and what it has to do with your nervous system, not your discipline

There is a particular kind of stuck that is nothing like laziness. The person is clear about what they want. They have a plan. They have…

When you can't trust your own knowing: how to reconnect with what you already sense

Picture the moment before you make a decision you already regret. Not the moment of regret — the moment before. There is often a signal…

Your intuition hasn't gone quiet. Your nervous system is just too loud for it

There is a particular frustration that comes up often with people who have been working on themselves for a while — meditating, reading,…

Resilience isn't a personality trait. It's a nervous system skill you can actually build

You know the person who seems to recover from everything quickly — bounces back after a hard week, doesn't carry Tuesday's difficulty into…

The clearing methods that actually work for inherited trauma — and why most people only try one

There is a specific quality to the work I do with inherited trauma that most clients notice only in retrospect: the moment they realise they…

Why the body heals differently outdoors — and what the science actually shows

There is a particular quality of quiet that arrives about twenty minutes into a walk through old woodland. Not silence — the woods are rarely…

Your body knows when a space needs clearing — and it's been trying to tell you

I notice it in my consulting room after an intense session. A heaviness that doesn't belong to the physical contents of the room — the…

The weight between two people doesn't dissolve when the argument ends — here's what actually clears it

The argument had been over for three days. The couple sitting with me knew that. They'd both said so. And yet when they came into the room…

Much of what you've been working so hard to heal was never yours to carry

The work I have spent the last two decades doing — first in clinical practice, then formalised through doctoral research — begins with a…