When your triggers are older than you are
Most people who've done any serious therapeutic work understand the concept of a trigger — the present-moment stimulus that activates a past…
Most people who've done any serious therapeutic work understand the concept of a trigger — the present-moment stimulus that activates a past…
There is a particular kind of suffering that therapy — good therapy, skilled therapy — keeps circling without landing on. The client has done…
The science has moved faster than the culture has caught up with. While popular discourse still frames ancestral trauma as a metaphor, or at…
You walk into a room and something shifts before you've consciously registered anything. A tightness you weren't carrying in the hallway. A…
The recognition that lands differently from almost anything else in this work: what you are carrying may not have originated in your own…
There is a kind of heaviness that has no obvious source. You wake into it, carry it through ordinary days, and when someone asks how you are,…
There is a particular quality to inherited emotional material that distinguishes it from what we have personally lived through: it doesn't…
There is a particular kind of stuck that is nothing like laziness. The person is clear about what they want. They have a plan. They have…
Picture the moment before you make a decision you already regret. Not the moment of regret — the moment before. There is often a signal…
There is a particular frustration that comes up often with people who have been working on themselves for a while — meditating, reading,…
You know the person who seems to recover from everything quickly — bounces back after a hard week, doesn't carry Tuesday's difficulty into…
There is a specific quality to the work I do with inherited trauma that most clients notice only in retrospect: the moment they realise they…
Nature Healing
There is a particular quality of quiet that arrives about twenty minutes into a walk through old woodland. Not silence — the woods are rarely…
Energy Clearing
I notice it in my consulting room after an intense session. A heaviness that doesn't belong to the physical contents of the room — the…
Relationships
The argument had been over for three days. The couple sitting with me knew that. They'd both said so. And yet when they came into the room…
inherited trauma
The work I have spent the last two decades doing — first in clinical practice, then formalised through doctoral research — begins with a…
ancestral trauma
The shame arrived before you did. That is not a metaphor. That is the most accurate description I have found, after two decades of clinical…
inherited trauma
There is a specific kind of distress that does not fit the narrative you would build about your own life. You wake up with a weight you cannot trace to anything that happened yesterday, or last year, or in any chapter you could honestly claim as a turning point. The
Chakras
There is a particular feeling that arrives before the explanation. A compression in the upper chest, a restlessness that has no obvious…
Mental Clarity
Halfway through a sentence and you've already lost the thread. You sit down to work and the mind slides. An hour passes and you're not sure…
ancestral trauma
Something that becomes clear in practice over time is the distinction between what I would call personal trauma and what I work with as…
ancestral trauma
People come to ancestral trauma work at very different points in their lives.
Visualization
Before he walked onto the stage, he had already been there a thousand times.
ancestral trauma
You have spent years trying to think your way out of a feeling that was never stored in your thoughts in the first place.